Are you really networking?
Everyone knows that networking is an important part of any job search, (I happen to think it’s the most important part, but more on that another time). But, what is networking? How do you do it? Do you have specific goals? What do you say when you are networking?
I’ve been to several groups that are either called “networking groups” or consider a large part of what they do “networking”. In reality they are at best “training” groups, (or aspire to provide training), and at worst they are merely coffee clutches or gripe sessions. In either case people delude themselves into thinking they are “networking”. Worse yet they take solace in the fact that they are doing something positive.
Can you network in a room with twenty or more strangers? Technically yes, but it’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack. It can happen but what are your chances and how long will it take?
If walking around talking to people isn’t networking, why isn’t it networking? The reason it’s not networking is that networking involves trust. And you simply can’t develop real trust in a one-time encounter. Trust takes time. If you’re conducting a serious job search, than time is not on your side.
Don’t get me wrong. Sitting around with a group of other unemployed people and sharing experiences, good or bad has its place, it’s just not networking. Besides thrust, another reason why it’s not networking is that it’s random, not focused in detail or outcome. in theses groups you don’t; control the make up of the group. The scenario goes something like this: people attending the event are hoping to meet or speak with someone who happens to know someone else the may be able to offer them a job. That’s too many maybes and too many degrees of separation. Again, can it happen? Certainly. But you could also win the lotto or get struck by lightening, and sometimes with better odds.
So if this is not the way to network, what is? Well, the place to start networking is with family, friends and colleagues. Why? Because they already know and trust you. No need to spend days, weeks or even months developing a relationship, it already exists. More importantly that trust can be shared with referral. The longer you know someone the deeper the trust and the more valuable the strength of the referral. In other words the value of a referral from someone who has know you all your life is stronger than an introduction from someone you met at a group for two hours last week.
Imagine someone you know casually coming up to you and saying, “I met this guy last week. He says he’s a doctor. He’d like to talk to you about your operation.” What would your reaction be?
Now imagine someone else saying to you, “My brother is a heart surgeon, he did real well in medical school. I think you should talk to him about your upcoming surgery”. Big difference, right? But why?
The fact might be that the first person is a better surgeon. But your friend’s lack of depth of knowledge and the resulting inability to elaborate on the doctor’s skills sends an incomplete message that results in a lack of trust.
The next step is to focus in on people that can really help you. Instead of hoping to run into someone that knows someone, ask your trusted family, friends and colleagues for specific recommendations for specific people or types of people. If you know the persons name you want to meet, ask for it. If, which is more likely, you don’t know the person but you know the position of the person most likely to hire you, ask for that. If you are looking for an operations job, ask whom they know that is a manager or director of operations. If your background is in sales, ask who they know who is in a sales management, marketing management or business development role.
The point is that you are not acting randomly. You are focused. You are working your net of relationships. Now you are now networking!
Posted by Nick Strippoli 